Übersetzung im Kontext von „starke Frau“ in Deutsch-Russisch von Reverso Context: eine starke Frau. Starke Frau, was nun? (German Edition) - Kindle edition by Jung, Kera. Download it once and read it on your Kindle device, PC, phones or tablets. Use features. Davon, was eine starke Frau ausmacht, hat wohl jede und jeder eine ganz eigene Vorstellung. Für das Wirtschaftsmagazin Forbes, das alljährlich eine Liste der.
Was Männer von starken Frauen lernen könnenDie starke Frau ist im besten Sinne emanzipiert. Sie ist autonom und hat eine entwickelte Persönlichkeit, sie liebt ihren Beruf, kann ihren Standpunkt vertreten. Aber eine starke Frau gibt sich nicht für billige Tricks her – und das ist auch gut so. So trennen wir die Spreu vom Weizen. Lerneffekt: Männer. Übersetzung im Kontext von „eine starke Frau“ in Deutsch-Spanisch von Reverso Context: Du bist eine starke Frau, ein Überlebenskünstler.
Starke Frau This is what is helpful in dealing with me VideoStarke Frauen - SWR Nachtcafé Jetzt neu: Yoga-Retreat in Thailand buchen! Du kannst mit nur einer Frage den wahren Charakter einer Person enttarnen Doch warum eigentlich nicht? Find the perfect Starke Frau stock photos and editorial news pictures from Getty Images. Select from premium Starke Frau of the highest quality. · Die starke Frau / The strong woman ABOUT DOMINANCE AND SUBMISSION, FREEDOM AND SECURENESS, EXPECTATIONS AND HOPES, LOVING AND BEING LOVED Unfiltered thoughts of a dominant woman. - Erkunde p bis Pinnwand „starke Frauen“ auf Pinterest. Weitere Ideen zu starke frauen, frau, schöne hintern pins. - Erkunde Sonja Manderbachs Pinnwand „Starke Frauen“ auf Pinterest. Weitere Ideen zu starke frauen, zitate, sprüche. Starke Haut, starke Frau. Ab November startet die neue Olay Kampagne, die starke Frauen in den Fokus rückt. Kristina Vogel lässt sich von Herausforderungen und Rückschlägen nicht entmutigen. Deutscher Originaltext: Starke Frauen So oft verbrannt Auf Inseln verbannt Gerne als Giftschlangen verkannt Bis heute noch nicht anerkannt Sind sehr klug und selbstbewußt Voller Eigenwillen und Lebenslust Sind des schwachen Mannes Dauerfrust Wenn Sie mal nach oben wollen Kommt die Repression ins Rollen Beschämen, verfemen, lähmen, bis sie gehen Hey, starke Frauen kommt heraus Macht die Männer-Strohfeuer aus Ja, ich lieb` Euch alle Das Mittelalter ist noch da Scheint so fern, doch ist. Starke Frauen betteln nicht, sie gehen weg, wenn sie sich unerwünscht fühlen Ich bin mir fast sicher, dass sich jede Frau in der folgenden Situation mit einem Mann befand: Du lernst einen[ ] Lustige Themen. Die Porträt-Dokumentation des LfULG zeigt Einblicke in das Leben und das Engagement von aktiven Frauen aus dem ländlichen Raum Sachsens. Durch die Vorstellun. Seller: greatbookprices2 Seller's other Bs.To Van Helsing. Email to friends Share on Facebook - opens in a new window or tab Share on Twitter - opens in a new window or tab Share on Pinterest - opens in a new window or tab Add to Watchlist. EDTBrand New, Free s Eine starke Frau arbeitet schwer, um ihre Ziele zu erreichen. Da sie Anekdote Zur Senkung Der Arbeitsmoral feinfühlig ist, kommen andere Menschen häufig mit ihren Problemen zu ihr.
Die Kosten deckt MyVideo grtenteils mit Werbung Sarg Englisch Prophecy Fest 2021 von Video-Ads oder Bannern? - 2. Gefühle nicht zeigenAllen immer ihre Meinung geigen wollen Zum Trotzen und Nancy Sinatra These Boots sein förmlich geboren, lassen sich viele starke Frauen nichts gefallen.
Erwhnenswert ist auch der Film Flesh for Frankenstein (auch bekannt als Prophecy Fest 2021 Warhol's Jana Mattukat Heute aus dem Jahr 1974, die Prophecy Fest 2021 sind lediglich eingebettet. - 1. Keine Hilfe annehmenDumm soll Konrad Beikirchner zwar auch nicht sein, aber auf keinen Fall schlauer als der Mann.
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Hier ansehen …. Starke Frauen haben die Ereignisse der Welt seit jeher beeinflusst. Dabei haben sie alle prägende Erfahrungen gemacht, die sie oftmals in Reden, Interviews oder Biografien niedergeschrieben haben.
Ich empfinde diese Sammlung an Zitaten als Inspiration für jede Frau. Sie spiegeln unsere Erfahrungen wieder und bringen sie auf den Punkt. Die Tatsache, dass diese starken Frauen, zu denen wir aufblicken, dieselben Schwierigkeiten und Hürden überwinden mussten, wie Du und ich heute auch, zeigen, dass wir niemals aufgeben sollten und immer weiter an uns glauben sollten.
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Hier der Ausschnitt aus der Rede von Michelle Obama, in der sie diesen Satz zu einem ikonischen Zitat geformt hat:. Keine Frau sollte ihr Licht unter den Scheffel stellen.
Klug zu sein, macht eine Frau nicht unattraktiv, unsympathisch oder uninteressant. Das Gegenteil ist der Fall. Das beste Beispiel ist die erfolgreiche Emma Watson selbst, die mit ihren Abschlüssen der Eliteuniversitäten Oxford und Brown mehr als nur eine erfolgreiche Karriere vorweisen kann.
Zweifle nicht an Dir selbst. Jetzt ist der richtige Moment, um Deine Erfolgslaufbahn zu starten. Du magst Dich vielleicht noch nicht bereit dazu fühlen, aber bald wirst Du bereit sein, und dann schon auf der Zielgeraden stehen.
Wir alle haben eine Geschichte, die auch von schweren Zeiten gezeichnet ist. Bei manchen mehr als bei anderen, doch eines haben wir alle gemeinsam: Wir haben diese schweren Zeiten überstanden.
Das beweist Stärke, Durchhaltevermögen und Mut. Gib jetzt nicht auf. Mach weiter. Ich verspreche, Du wirst es nicht bereuen. But he was not interested in me.
And all my efforts were in vain. Whatever I did, he always wanted more or something different. What I wanted and needed was never of any interest to him.
A longtime reader and dear friend offered some valuable insight recently. My experience is that when you have a pattern that keeps repeating itself, there is something deeper at play.
Your narrative takes as a given that your kink is a good thing that should be indulged. Have you ever challenged that assumption?
I pondered his words for a while and I a realized that when it comes to my kink and sexuality, I am driven by fear much more than I had realized.
I don't have it all figured out yet. But I can share a couple of events with you that deeply formed who I am now. I love men, but at the very same time I am often in fear of them.
It feels as if I have to constantly please them. And if I dont please them, something bad happens. Another reader of the blog mentioned these aspects years ago.
If you are reading this, yes, you were right. For me, men are very unpredictable. And scary. And I know that I don't stand a chance against them when it comes to physical stuff.
I saw my step dad slapping my mom in her face. I know that my biological dad once hired a guy to violently cut a woman's hair, in order to punish her.
I experienced a drunk boyfriend violently ripping the car keys out of my hand when I had told him: "I am driving, you cant, you are too drunk.
I think one reason why sub men are so attractive to me is: I know men are physically stronger than I am. I know that men have the power to hurt me very much.
Both physically and emotionally. In business life that is perfectly fine with me. I have no problems dealing with loud or threatening men in court, for instance.
But in my private life: I am scared very easily and often. I can take care of myself. I am capable of fighting my own fights for myself. I don't need a provider.
I am very able to take care of myself. And even when it comes to sexuality: I do know how to pleasure myself.
Letting my guard down and letting a man in my life and showing him my vulnerability didn't come easy for me at all.
For a very long time the risk seemed so much higher than the potential gain. That's one of the reasons why I lived as a single woman till my mid thirties.
It just did not feel safe to give myself in the hands of somebody who could hurt me that much. Submissive men offer me the greatest gift possible. They are treating me nicely.
They don't yell at me. They are willingly and freely giving up the power that they have over me, in order to please me and make me happy.
And they allow me to relax and to feel loved and valuable and seen. In being strong enough to making themselves vulnerable around me, these guys allow me to show them my vulnerability too.
And in the beginning, I don't even need to show them my vulnerability much. They actually enjoy me being dominant and in charge. They allow me to feel good and do what I am good at and at the same time they don't bring me in a position where I am scared to do something wrong and piss the guy off in a bad way.
I think it is safe to say that when I am doing kinky activities with a man, I have never ever actually hurt the man in a bad way.
I value his gift to me way too much. Him understanding how thankful I am for the gift of his submission to me is one of my biggest goals.
Btw: I understand now that this is what connects me with James, one reader of my blog, in a very strange way.
He as a submissive man experienced one of my biggest fears as a domme. The woman in his life didn't understand him correctly, the woman didn't get what he is actually craving and needing, and in doing the kinky things she did to him, she hurt him very much for real and caused him long-lasting and severe pain.
Intellectually I am very sure that I didn't cause any real pain to any man I ever interacted with. But there are parts in me who are convinced that I fucked up big time with a sub I had.
And I am just not able to quiet these parts in me down. You all read about the story with my ex boyfriend. The guy I dated from to The gist of it is: He was submissive.
We were together for 4 years, I wanted to marry him and he ghosted me. And when I flew around half the globe in to meet him and to bring things to closure between us, he actually hid from me.
He was totally shunning me. Still is. The thing is: I never found closure with him. It is still a hurting and open wound and my internal self-talk in that matter is really bad.
His behavior says much more about him than about you. You completely failed him. It is all your fault. If only you had behaved differently, if only you had acted differently, if only you were differently.
It feels like I somehow let him down big time and he is now punishing me by ending all contact with me for good. It feels like he doesn't think I am even worthy of one single word or one single minute of his time anymore.
I have tried to find closure in the last 6 years, but could not. And I have reflected about it what's going on in me for all that time.
I meditated about it. I prayed over it. I spoke with my shrink about it. I have begged him for closure, and pleaded with him, and tried to please him into helping me to get closure, but to no avail.
All the years he has chosen to stay completely silent. He completely shut me out of his life. And the horrible thing is: I cant hate him.
I somehow think he must be justified in his strong reaction to me because I must have somehow treated him super badly and caused him terrible harm.
I still get tears in my eyes just thinking about the fact that he chooses to cut me out of his life for good.
My best friend, who actually met the ex-boyfriend in person, told me a few days ago:. He must have triggered deeper , more hidden parts in you.
And my guess is that it is related to stuff you experienced with your father. I knew immediately that my friend was right.
My ex was or is a wonderful father to his kids. There is no doubt about it that he is great dad material. He is quite a bit older than I am, and I can totally see that he triggered feelings related to my father in me.
I pondered that question a long time. And the answer I gave myself surprised me quite a bit. The answer is: I like Germany much better than the USA.
I am a bit reluctant to open that discussion. Here on my blog I am usually staying away from anything political as much as I can.
Therefore please note: Here comes MY very personal opinion. How do you explain a feeling? Yes, there is a difference between how bdsm is seen in Germany and in the US.
I really do think that it is easier for German men to be openly submissive. I do think that the German society is indeed much more open and accepting to bdsm.
I never had a problem with having my kink. My brother knows about it and doesnt care a bit, my mom knows about it and is fine with it. I am sure that my deceased father would be ok with it and my step father too.
I think the German society is still very much influenced, if not traumatized, by the events from There is no doubt that we were "the bad ones".
It is still hard to stomach what horrific things the Germans did. It is a huge guilt that the Germans have to carry. We grow up with the knowledge that our ancestors fucked up big time.
And this knowledge is rubbed in our face over and over and over again. It never ends. It is always in the back of our minds. And the feeling of: "You are forgiven, everything is good again", just never comes.
Just recently we were invited to have dinner post pandemic of course with a friend of my partner, and the friend said to my partner: "My wife is Jewish.
I hope there won' t be a problem with your German wife? In Germany, we learned to be open minded, to question our believes, to question our own actions and to accept that we are flawed people.
I shake my head in perplexity. Why do you believe that? What is it that makes the US so extraordinary in your opinion?
It must be pretty cool to have such a childlike and simple view of the world. I wonder often what it feels like to grow up with the believe of: "we are the greatest", instead of: "we fucked up big time.
In Germany, for decades, it was impossible to even think about uttering the words: we are the greatest. And tell me, what exactly are these people who are so proud of the USA actually proud of?
I really dont see many reasons that make the USA better or greater than so many other countries. Nobody here in the US gives a shit about environmental protection.
Let's just keep using plastic and cans and let our children deal with cleaning it up. Gas is cheap, why even looking into ways to use the car less?
Let's keep living as if climate change does not exist. And all the hatred for the immigrants I can tell you, immigrating is one of the hardest things I have ever done.
And I am not coming from a place of war or drama. Btw: did you know that the American consulate, when handing out the green card, also hands out a flyer which states the immigrants rights in a domestic violence situation?
Obviously there are a lot of Americans out there who beat their new wives up once they are in the country The whole homeless situation in big cities is making me wanna cry.
And all that so many people do is buying a Mc Donalds burger for a homeless person and thinking they did a great act Speaking about food: the quality of the food here is so much worse than in Europe.
People in the US are obviously not used to cooking for themselves anymore. In the food you can buy are tons of artificial ingredients added and I am not surprised that so many Americans suffer from diabetes.
It is hard to eat healthy food here. The whole system is set up to make you buy fast food People are so financially unprotected and poor that they actually have to go to work despite being covid positive I could go on and on.
But hey, at least the lawn looks perfect, so that the neighbors think I got my shit under control We all have a need to be connected.
We all have a need to help and support and uplift one another. We are social creatures. It seems strange to me that this is not valued much more.
I am finally living in the US now. It is a very strange feeling, it feels almost unreal. A dream came true and I am still fascinated that it actually happened.
So far I am pretty happy here. With the US so divided, and both sides being so convinced that they are "the good ones", I thought a lot about blind spots.
And I have been thinking more than once: why on earth don't they see what I see? But no worries, I am not going to write about politics here.
I am more interested in what I can learn for my own life and my own relationship. Just as we have visual blind spots when looking at the road through our car mirrors, we also have psychological blind spots - aspects of our personalities that are hidden from our view.
These might be annoying habits like interrupting or bragging, or they might be deeper fears or desires that are too threatening to acknowledge.
Although it's generally not pleasant to confront these aspects of ourselves, doing so can be very useful when it comes to personal growth, and when it comes to improving our relationships with others - there is undoubtedly something we do that, unbeknownst to us, drives our significant others, roommates, or coworkers a little crazy.
So how do you know what your blind spots are? I am not working much at the moment, but I am trying to grow as a person.
I spend hours each day contemplating and thinking about my life so far, about my past, my failures and successes and where I wanna go from here.
Since you are all here for the kink, I wanna focus on the kink aspects. I am a bit at loss when it comes to this thing we do. I am not sure what I am doing or what I am doing wrong, but there is no kink in my life anymore.
At all. And the strange thing is: this has happened to me before and I have not figured out why. I am living a vanilla life, despite having strong dominant needs and cravings.
I literally had hundreds of submissive men courting me over the years, I know since I am a teenager that vanilla sex does not interest me at all, and all porn I ever got turned on on?
The questions I am cogitating about are: why don't I get what I am craving? I am the master of my life. I am creating everything that happens in my life.
And when I am having no kink in my life, despite blogging for 10 years about how important the kink is for me and how much it turns me on and how much I enjoy it, there needs to be something going on within me that is preventing me from getting what I want.
There needs to be an aspect or elements that I am not seeing. I need to have a blindspot that I am not aware of. Years ago I had a wonderful conversation with wdspoon and if I recall correctly he told me that he always found women who matched his needs.
That was very interesting to me, because up until then I had heard many many men complaining about how hard it is to find a dominant woman.
I never forgot that conversation because I realized that it is possible to get own needs met, despite how hard it seems and how unfavorable the statistic seems.
So why am I shooting myself in the foot when it comes to getting my sexual needs fulfilled? One place that blind spots can be found is in strong reactions.
An unusually strong negative or positive reaction or stance may suggest engagement in a process Freud called reaction formation.
Reaction formation involves unconsciously transforming an unacceptable or undesirable impulse into its opposite.
For example, according to this view, former New York governor Elliot Spitzer's efforts to crack down on prostitution when in office may have been a direct reaction to his own desire for and involvement with prostitutes.
I have seen the same reaction formation in many Christians. Ted Haggard for instance comes to mind. But recation formation is a possibility, of course.
Maybe I am secretly submissive and dont wanna live these aspects? My mom was crying over men Hence my nickname: the strong woman.
In one study Morokoff, , female participants high in sexual guilt deemed erotic imagery to be unacceptable and reported low arousal in response to it.
Physiological measures revealed, however, that these same participants actually showed the highest levels of arousal. Harsh judgments of others' behavior may reveal a personal insecurity - for example, that highly ambitious co-worker may especially irritate you because of your own unexpressed ambitions.
Blind spots in these cases need not be objectively negative traits, just traits that are experienced as personally shameful or unacceptable. I think it is fair to say that I am actually a very strong and courageous person.
And I do know that I can be very dominant in real life. Just ask my sister, lol, she will tell you what a bitch I am and how dominant I am.
But at the same time I am super insecure about myself. I don't value myself enough. I am my own very harsh critic. I don't give myself much credit for what I have achieved in life.
I don't think I am worthy to be pampered. I am always focused on fulfilling other people's needs. Putting myself and my needs first in a relationship doesn't come easy to me.
My shrink says that is a behavior that I learned when I was very very young and therefore it is quite difficult to change. I am the most understanding person you can think of.
I understand pretty much everything when it comes to human behavior. There is not much that can scare me away from a human being. I am a healer and I am proud of it.
Healing people is easy for me. You can wake me up in the middle of the night, tell me that you are sad, or unhappy, or depressed, and I will be able to come up with true reasons why I think you are amazing.
And I will truly think that you are amazing. Supporting people in need is something I have been doing all my life.
And my theory is: as far as the kink is concerned, in the beginning of a relationship, when all is new, I am fully and completely focused on the man.
I wanna know as much as I can. And in the beginning, generally speaking, the men that enter my life are more than happy to give me what I want.
They feel seen and cherished and special. And they are all that to me. I think that is why it is very easy for the men to submit to me during that phase.
And I love every moment of it. I really do. It makes me feel amazing, vibrant, alive and happy. And turned on, of course, lol. I think: "bingo.
But then comes a point when all of a sudden the men start to withdraw again. We are still in a relationship, we still get along very well, we still think the other person is wonderful, but the men -for me completely out of the blue- stop submitting to me.
If I ask in a playful way: "hey, come on, let's do stuff And I am sure as hell not gonna beg a man to pretty please let me dominate him. There has never been any explanation, any talk , any conversation I have no idea what the men were thinking, really no fucking clue.
My best guess is: I came emotionally too close. I saw facets of them that they usually hide. I scared them away. I guess what I asked for was too much.
Because in all honesty: The thing that turns me on the most is domestic discipline. I think the moment the guy says to me: "I am gonna have that 3rd beer anyway.
I feel like: "Fuck, I have been so nice to you, why cant you just fucking give me what makes me happy and what I need? My problem is: In these situations I still think he is awesome, I still love him like crazy, I still think he is wonderful, but I also secretly start to grow anger inside.
I am getting angry because I have no way to fulfill my own needs. I can not just non-consensually dominate a man. That's illegal and furthermore not how I roll.
I need his submission freely given by him, and not non-consensually taken by me. In a way, it feels like betrayal. I have invested so much in the man, and in return he does not give me what I crave the most: his submission.
And to make it hurt even more, he is giving it to me for a while, only to then withhold it from me. I can tell you; That sucks big time. I think I made one big mistake in the past: I more or less assumed that the submissive men I had contact with where strong and self confident enough to submit to me.
But in hindsight I think the men only were strong enough to open up to me and let me get as far as I came because I am actually great at opening people up emotionally.
I think the men that I met were generally super private and guarded and only allowed me to dominate them for a while because I really am good at making people feel safe.
I can be the most non threatening motherlike person you can think of. But: If the former submissive guy wants the vanilla version of a relationship with me , I expect him to take as good care of my needs as I took care of his when I was in the dominant position.
And they rarely do. In my experience I am suddenly stuck in a vanilla relationship where the guy still expects me to bend over backwards for him, without him giving me the gift of his submission.
And that is a very unpleasant situation for me to be in. After hearing so many stories from submissive guys and reading so many stories of guys who dream of having a dominant girlfriend, it was pretty shocking to realize how few "submissive" men actually are wiling to put in the effort to give me what turns me on.
Just as extreme negative reactions to a trait in others might suggest the presence of that trait in oneself, extremely positive attitudes or behaviors may suggest a lack, or a feared lack, of a desired trait.
Research shows that people who want to appear non-prejudiced may go to great lengths to demonstrate their generosity and positive attitudes towards a stigmatized group, especially when their sense of themselves as a non-prejudiced person is threatened.
Other kinds of overly positive or rigid attitudes may also suggest underlying negativity, ambivalence, or doubt. I really dont know where I stand.
And maybe I am asking for too much. Who knows? As you can see, I dont have many answers, but still many questions I have been working behind the scenes and was able to resolve all problems.
I was granted the visa and I already am in the USA now. Thank you very much to all of you who have reached out to me and supported me emotionally and legally.
By not hiring an immigration lawyer for the whole process but doing it myself I saved thousands of bucks but got grey hair :- The following saying came to my mind more than once, lol: "a man who is his own lawyer has a fool for a client".
But anyway, I made it happen. It feels very strange to finally live here. I have been in the US many many times over the last 20 years or so, but actually living 24 7 forever in America with my American husband still feels very unreal.
The goodbye from Germany and my German family was harder than expected. I am glad that part is over. My whole life is a white canvas now and I am not sure yet what I am gonna paint on it, figuratively speaking.
Very exciting and also pretty scary. It has always been tricky for me to write this blog while being in a relationship. For some reason my partners have always felt very unhappy with me writing about the kink and our sex life.
In a way it is impossible for me to write about my kinky life and not about my partners, because it is so much linked together.
In the very few cases when I do just play, it is online only. The interactions that make me the happiest and that give me content for my blog are the interactions with my partner.
He is the one that I am focused on. In a way I do understand that it can feel scary to know that I am blogging. I was writing my blog already when I met him.
He knew about my blog right from the beginning. He knew that I am writing about my love life. And he knew I write about us. I was so hurt about his position, within 5 min of having heard his reproach I deleted all posts that I wrote since knowing him.
Accusing me of violating his consent is a huge accusation. I dont even wanna be near it. If you should have wondered why so many of my older post disappeared I do understand that a lot of submissive guys have a lot of fear of being "outed" as submissives.
I would never out anybody. Plus: I really think there is nothing to "out" anyway. You like getting your ass spanked?
So what? Enjoy it. So do I. I am in the scene for years now. And my conclusion is: there is really NOTHING we should be ashamed of.
Nothing at all. Nevertheless I dont talk with the vanilla world about anything we do. I am not on a mission to make this thing we do mainstream.
Far from it. A few days ago I received a personal email from a reader of this blog regarding my visa status.
His email was super sweet and warm, and there were no strings attached at all. I spoke with my shrink about this email, I had my phone with me and read her some of the text he had written.
My shrink is female, super cool and open minded.He always denied the rape. I have met so many wonderful men, I couldnt have imagined how important that blog would become for me. Never in my life have I felt so alone. And I do know that I can be very dominant in real life. He is a drug addict now. Vacation Auf Deutsch unusually strong negative Lost Monster positive Noobees Schauspieler or stance may suggest engagement in a process Freud called reaction formation. I know I would be and its why I Starke Frau in the closet. They dont wanna hear that they have a responsibility for the mess they are in. And one time when I met him, I suddenly realized he had lost a finger. I grew up with my mom and her parents. But in hindsight I think the men only were strong enough to open up to me and let me get as far as I came because I am actually great at opening people up emotionally. I learned that making myself vulnerable allows people to make themselves vulnerable around me.